Though Titi looked every inch like her father, Titilayo’s dad simply found a replacement of his dear wife in his daughter. Determined to give his children the best he could afford, he made up his mind to devote the rest of his life to seeing his children through life. He saw to it that they got good education, which ultimately saw Titilayo going to the University of Nigeria, Nsukka. After graduation, Titilayo was employed by Skye Bank in 2007, and started doing quite well. Then, Kolade Arowolo showed up in her life, and a relationship developed between them. They eventually got married in 2008. Titilayo was said to have shown devotion, dedication and commitment to the union.The union began to experience turbulence when Kolade lost his job about two years ago. Notwithstanding the setback, Titilayo made her best efforts to cushion the effect on the marriage by providing for the family. It is not very clear when and how the sequence of events that ultimately led to the tragic end of Titilayo commenced. The police are still investigating what happened on the day of the incident. But the mournful cloud that descended on the family in the wake of the news of Titilayo’s death only seems to be getting thicker as the days pass. With grief dripping from his pores, Oyakhire Jnr, Titilayo’s brother told Sunday Sun: “My dear sister was the apple of our father’s eyes. She was so dear to him that he treated her like his wife. Since our mum died years ago when sister Omozojie (Titilayo) was just nine, our father accepted her as a replacement of his wife. The reason was because Omozoje combined a striking resemblance of our dad with exact mannerisms of our mum to warm dad’s heart. He would say to us, that is your mum, my wife. I am not missing your mum because Omozojie possesses all her attributes. She is humane, compassionate, reserved and highly tolerant.” Continuing, he said: “Dad has been in shock since receiving the news of her death. And I don’t know if he would ever be himself as I strongly believe the remaining part of him left by Mum has gone with Omozojie.”
Asked if they were aware that the couple had been having issues as alleged by the their neighbors, he confirmed the claims of the neighbours, but said that no one thought it would result in the tragedy that ended his sister’s life.
This singular act cannot be any better described other than pure dehumanization and cannibalism. So many women had fallen prey to this kind of marriage after been warned or cautioned by friends or family members. It’s heartrending, however that despite the yearnings and beckoning from concerned folks who have foreseen the wrath in certain marriages, a whole lot of young women still dive into dens which they call a home. The usual responses are that they love the man deeply or that they are fulfilling marriage vows- horrible! All of which is to their own detriment and like Titi, DEATH! A woman should know when her marriage is likely to result to doom. If she doesn’t know, then she should seek advice from knowledgeable people especially women who had experienced same or are knowledgeable in that area. Nonetheless, she as the lady who often suffers the battering should know that it is unusual and very typical of a husband to constantly dehumanize and maltreat his wife.If you are in this kind of marriage, it is time to take a break. If several talks, family meetings and pleas to resolve your marriage problems prove a futile effort, then you can get a divorce. Women will only cut their own life short by putting up with marriages of this kind. In fact, a woman whose husband has the courage to lay a finger on should get the message that she is living with a total stranger- a psycho if put informally. That is where she would have to take optimum steps to save her precious life. Agreed, marriages do have problems but when it gets to the point of physical and emotional abuse, the man and the woman involved should take steps to find a safe way out than sticking together until one is killed.
Remember! "the first time a woman is battered in a marriage, she is a victim but the second and subsequent times she is beaten in a marriage, she is a volunteer". How many of us women are volunteers? "Please be warned! The punching activities of your spouse could take you to the land where Titilayo Omozejie is today".