Are you in the habit of rushing to work and equally rushing home because there is so much to do both at home and at work? Ever went to bed tired ignoring so many things in the bedroom and kitchen needing your attention, only to be interrupted a few hours later by the sound from your alarm clock? Do you always leave the house with more chores needing your attention that you carry part of your makeup/shoes and scarves to the office to dress appropriately later? Do you sometimes wish you could be in two or three places all at once? Are you a mother that works? Because if you are, then you'll appreciate and understand why there is a need to talk about how hard each day is for this superwoman called the "working mom".
Working Moms Nigeria is an endeavors to help women strike a healthy balance between earning a living and maintaining a good home.

Dedicated to all the women who are juggling work and family. You too can be a part of this mind boggling experience by joining millions of ‘superheroes out there in sharing in their trails and travails. Welcome!!!

20 October 2011


Barack Obama Doesn't Like His Daughters Watching the Kardashians, Says Michelle

This morning, I stumbled on this story about Barrack not liking his daughters watch the Kardashians, I couldn't but just read through it. I am also aware that our children are watching something worse than the Kardashians. How do I know? You will ask; Many things we see around today points to the obvious; the mode of dressing, the dance steps, the lack of respect for parents and elders! Hmm, like joke like joke, what we termed the western culture is fast creeping in and eroding our beautiful cultures. What amazes me most is the carefree attitude of we mothers. Now tell me, how will a mother who enjoys watching the Kardashians and sees nothing wrong in their acts advise her daughter? I can readily see them both in front of the TV watching and exchanging notes. (Sad). There is absolutely nothing wrong with watching with your daughters because right then, you may be able to guide her and ask if she learnt a thing or two. My major concern is this; when mom are at work, what kind of programs do  the kids watch?.  To  some moms "Parental Control button" is only a feature on our  gadgets and not necessarily one that must be activated

Even though the Americans  live in a Kardashian nation, PresidentBarack Obama isn't exactly a fan of reality TV's royal family!
First Lady Michelle Obama tells iVillagethat her hubby, 50, doesn't like Sasha, 10, and Malia, 13, keeping up with Kim, Kourtney and Khloe Kardashian's antics on the boob tube. 
Michelle, 47, says that like most parents, she and Barack regulate how much TV their daughters watch and what they're allowed to see. "Barack really thinks some of the Kardashians -- when they watch that stuff -- he doesn't like that as much," she told iVillage.
"But I sort of feel like if we're talking about it, and I'm more concerned with how they take it in -- what did you learn when you watched that," Michelle explained. "And if they're learning the right lessons, like, that was crazy, then I'm like, okay."
While the Kardashian family is known for their big spending (Kim purchased a $325,000 Ferrariearlier this month), their upbringing wasn't entirely different from Sasha and Malia's.
Michelle tells iVillage she doesn't want her girls raised as "little princesses."
"They have to make their own beds, to clean up their rooms," she says. "Sasha has started doing the laundry. Malia was supposed to be doing it but [Sasha] is really into laundry."
Khloe, 27, told Babycenter last month about her "Cinderella" upbringing. "When I turned twelve, my mom's housekeeper was not allowed to enter my room," she said. Kris Jenner told her at the time: "You're twelve now. You do all your own laundry. You make your bed."
Khloe said when Kendall and Kylie Jenner were born, "I had to do all the dishes and I cooked for them. But honestly now, I'm a great cook and I'm OCD clean and I like that my parents did that."
Source: Yahoo.com

08 October 2011

Wife of Slain Lagos Business Man Confesses.

‎“Yes, I killed him. I killed him but, he was the cause of it...When he came, he was very aggressive and he could beat the children. Immediately I saw him in that attire, I knew he was out for trouble and I took the children inside their room. While we were fighting, the children were shouting, banging the door and calling our names because they wanted to come out."
THE wife of slain Lagos business man, Mr. Kazeem Ademoye who was allegedly killed in his house at Magodo Phase 2 has finally opened up from her cell at the State Criminal Investigation Department, SCID, Panti, Yaba, Lagos where she is being detained.
The 35-year-old mother of three who spoke to Crime Guard under strict security watch lamented that since the incident took place, her three children have been locked out of their home and that they have been wearing one clothe.
Mrs. Ngozi Ademoye who was visibly bemoaning the fate that befell her, alleged that since the death of her husband, her three children have been locked out by relations of their father and that they have not been able to change into new clothes.
According to her, “Yes, I killed him. I killed him but, he was the cause of it. Members of his family wanted me and my children out of the house. They wanted to take the two small ones. But no one can take my kids, no one. My three children are from him. No one can take my kids because I stayed with him that long because of my children. He came that night. He was putting on a red dress with a feather and he was also wearing a small tortoise.
“When he came, he was very aggressive and he could beat the children. Immediately I saw him in that attire, I knew he was out for trouble and I took the children inside their room. While we were fighting, the children were shouting, banging the door and calling our names because they wanted to come out. While we were together, I never felt like I was in bondage because of my children
“Most times, my children will be praying and begging me to be there for them. When I saw him slump on the floor, I was with him and crying. In the morning, I called my children and we were begging him to wake up (crying) . My kids did not know what happened. They were like asking why I was crying and why I had this wound on the hand. I then took them to the parlor where we all cried for sometime, before we then called his brother.

“My children are presently with my sisters. Now that he is dead, I will still be there for my children. That night at the mortuary, the younger brother Jamiu and his friend started asking me about his office key. I then told them that it was not with me. When I then read what was going on in the papers, I said, these people are not after their brother who was in the mortuary, instead they were after getting me and my kids out of the compound and taking over his property.
“The other time, they said they went to a herbalist who told them I killed my husband because of Ogun and I said, is there any other Ogun that I don’t know about. Is it not that place we were living and the other office he was building. Is there any other place that I don’t know about. They also claimed they gave me a loan of N100,000.00. That I killed him because the loan is now in his account and I am the next of kin.
“He has three accounts, UBA where we have about N300 or N600,000.00. In Diamond bank, we have two accounts. We used to take loans with one while the other is personal account. And in this one that we used to take loan with, we took N5m and we have paid it and in the personal account we have over N2.3m and I wonder the Ogun they were talking about. I started hearing of my nightmare stories yesterday.
“You know I sleep in the cell and sometimes, we were over 16 persons in a cell and if I have had a nightmare like that, I am very sure people around me will hear about my screams. We all pray together before going to bed and when we wake up, we pray together again. It was even in that cell that I was taught to be strong . I was detained at Isheri police Station, after my brothers in-law invited the police and after wards, they brought me here.
“First I thought when I come here (Panti), my neck would be chopped off, but what I am seeing is not what I expected. Do you know what they changed to nightmare? Since we are lonely in the cell , we talk to ourselves a lot over so many things and during these conversations, I told my cell mates how my husband’s brothers have been busy trying to claim my husband’s properties. In fact, since he died, all they have been asking for is the office keys and his money.
“Nobody is talking about the welfare of my children who are still in school, no one is talking about me, they have all forgotten that I have not beencondemned yet by a judge. After having these discussions with my cell mates, I called my I.P.O and told him that I needed to speak with my brothers in-law. So, he called two of them and we met. First I begged them to forgive and I told them that I was sorry for every thing that has happened. My younger brother in-law, then told me that Jamiu wants to sub-let some part of my husband’s office building .
“And he also asked if it was true that I killed their brother for N100m, and I asked with N100m? Then he said the one in the bank account. I asked him which bank account, UBA bank or Diamond Bank? Then he told me that that was what everyone in the family is saying, after they consulted a herbalist, then I told him all the amount we have in the bank and he can also go to the banks and verify.
“I tried explaining to them that I have been with my husband for a long time and he has not told me about any N100m. After that, the next day, I read in the papers that my husband’s ghost was chasing me. There is no way a ghost will be haunting someone and nobody around that person will not know. They went and changed everything we said and the papers published a different thing.
“But I suspect something. May be, since the herbalist they consulted told them about properties, may be there are properties my husband had that I don’t know about. I used to sell men’s shoes. I stopped and went into selling natural hair and then my husband asked me to support him with my money to buy electrical lights t from one Mr. Segun Adesonya.
“I started with my husband from a very tiny room, it is as small as this room we are seated, there was no car, no housing property. We were just managing, until God started helping us. But I then noticed after some years that my husband was not happy. He normally complained that the frog my sister killed stopped him from getting more money.
I also noticed that, as rich as my husband was then, he wasn’t helping anyone, even as the bread winner of the entire family, he wasn’t helping anyone. Now, when I see people saying she killed her husband for this reason or the other, no one is asking questions. They are talking now as if they are closer to my husband than myself.
This Jamiu that is claiming to love my husband in death more than anyone was not even happy with my husband before he died. If you see his wife, she limps. She had an accident sometime ago and the doctor said they were going to cut off her foot, but my husband could not help them. Their elder sister was feeding from hand to mouth and we are rich. Is it supposed to be so? My father in-law died a very poor man and we are very rich.
“All these people coming around shouting, my children doesn’t even know them before. My husband don’t allow them come anywhere near us, I was even the one fighting for them. Now my worries are why are they going after my husband’s properties, why do they want to take everything I and my late husband laboured for years.
“Today my children can not even enter our house, they locked every where with keys, my children can not even change their clothes. Why are they treating my children like this, why are they trying to take over everything. My children comes to this place to see me with the same cloth they wore on the day of the ugly incident.
“My late husband was a very aggressive person. Whenever he is angry, you see him talking, talking, talking. He attacked me because I saw the fetish pot inside a locker and I had to try destroying it with holy water. We just started a new church close to our house and that was why the pastor was able to help me with the holy water. I saw hell when I sprinkled water on the fetish pot.
“I saw a big frog spring up from the pot and it was turning both its hands and head as if it was scratching the surface of a glass or looking for something to grip. I ran away. When he came back, he was very furious. Later, he appeared in that frightening attire and that was when he started reciting incantations and openly confessing how he killed my sister.
“My younger sister who was leaving with us died few years back after we burnt a frog we saw inside our house. Her death was a mystery because her body was burnt the same we burnt the mystery frog and she later died. We have been seeing strange things and creatures in the house. I continued staying with him just because of my children”, she stated amidst tears.
However, in another twist of events, relations of the husband have alleged that while they are patiently awaiting the outcome of the autopsy, it was discovered that the detained wife to the deceased, Mrs Ngozi Ademoye surreptitiously plotted and carted away documents of her late husband’s landed property including the palatial building at number 11, Ahirim Onuoha close , Magodo phase 2, Lagos. A spokesman of the family told Crime Guard that the widow allegedly contacted her sister, her son Tunde and a friend to her late husband pretentiously to fetch some money and food items for her kids.
It was gathered that Mr. Olumide unsuspectingly accompanied them to the house thinking that the detained widow had the approval of her husband’s family members only to learn later that the other party were in the house for another sinister motives.
It was further learn t that instead of opening the gates, the suspect’s sister and 15 -year -old Tunde scaled the fence, broke into the bedroom of the deceased and carted away landed documents including the Certificate of Occupancy C of O of the deceased’s Magodo house where he lived with his family until he was death.
Reacting to the recent development, head of the Ademoye family, Mr. Adesegun Hakeem Agbaye said it has become abundantly clear that Ngozi murdered their brother to take over his numerous properties. Mr. Agabye wondered why somebody who is being held for murder in a police formation as dreaded as SCID Panti should be allowed access to telephone facilities so much so that she could even plot the stealing of vital documents in her late husband’s bedroom.
He said, “I am shocked that some body who is being held for an offense as grave as murder can be allowed access to her telephones. As I speak with you all her lines are going and when you call them she personally picks her calls. Just on Sunday, I was told she called one of my late brother’s friends, that she wanted him to accompany her sister, Bella and her son Tunde whom she had for somebody else before marrying my brother to the house to fetch some clothes for the children as well as collect some money and food items.
“Already we had locked every where the moment she confessed that she killed my brother because we suspected she must be out for something; but what they did was to jump over the fence, broke into the house and because she has the key to my brother’s inner room, they entered it and collected documents and undisclosed amount of money and disappeared into thin air.

Source: Vanguard News By Emma Nnadozie, Crime Editor and Albert Akpor


Life in the 21st century is full of frustrations, deadlines, hassles and stress that drains us psychologically, emotionally, physically and other wise. Yet these are nothing compared to the joys and pains of motherhood. Like a double edged sword, motherhood fulfills many parts of a woman’s soul. On the other hand, motherhood is also energy sapping, and behind the pretty smiling faces of the 21st century working mother is the heavy burden of juggling a job, self-care, parenting, and babysitting a husband. This leaves women vulnerable to stress and other health hazards such as: high blood pressure, suppressing of immune system, heart attack, stroke, rewiring of the brain (anxiety and depression), skin conditions such as eczema, obesity, pain of any kind, sleep problems etc. As a result of this, there is need for working mothers to strike a balance between their career, family and social life.
As a working mother, your ability to cope or tolerate stress depends on so many factors like your quality of relationship, genetic make-up and emotional intelligence. However, some stress can be self generated through inability to accept uncertainty, negative-self talk, pessimism, unrealistic expectations and perfectionism. As a career mum, here are some symptoms you need to look out for:
  • Mood swings
  • Memory problems
  • Feeling overwhelmed
  • Sense of loneliness
  • Isolation
  • Lack of concentration
  • Poor judgment
  • Anxious or racing thoughts
  • Nervous habits (nail biting and pacing)
  • Frequent colds
  • Eating more or less
  • Irritability or quick temper
  • Loss of sex drive
  • Rapid heart beat
  • Inability to relax and
  • Seeing only the negative.
All of the above and many more are indications that you need to identify the source of the stress and do the following in other to stay healthy and happy:
  • Take charge: take control of your emotions, environment, avoid hot-button topics, and pair down your to-do list.
  • Be assertive: learn to always express your feelings in a subtle way instead of bottling them up. Be willing to compromise (not core values please), and manage your time better by avoiding busy diaries.
  • Change the situation: if you can’t change the stressor, then change yourself by adjusting your expectations and having attitudinal re-engineering.
  • Have good sex: the human body benefits from sex in so many ways, says Joy Davidson, PhD, a New York psychologist and sex therapist. A recent research carried out by Davidson and other experts reveals that sex does the following for women.
  • Relieves stress
  • Burns calories
  • Improves cardiovascular health
  • Boosts immune system
  • Boosts self esteem
  • Improves intimacy
  • Reduces pain
  • Strengthen pelvic floor muscles
  • Enhances good sleep.
While the working moms battle all of these health hazards, they need all the support they can get from their husbands, children and family members. Take out time to buy them gifts, tell them soothing words and shower them with praises. May God bless all the working mums of the 21st century.

07 October 2011

Dakore Egbuson-Akande Joins Motherhood!

Delectable Star Actress, Dakore Egbuson-Akande joins motherhood as she and her husband Olumide welcomed their new bundle of joy, a baby girl in far away USA last week. Olumide was so overjoyed as his darling wife, Dakore, gave birth to a bouncing baby girl. 

We at working moms will like to say congratulations to them as they step into this new phase of their lives! We have no doubt that Dakore will be a good mother to her kids because she has been consistent in doing good as a woman.

Welcome to Motherhood our sweet Dakore! Congratulations to the Egbuson's and Akande's families.

05 October 2011


Back To School! Back to school!  the inscription you see in every shop as a new school year had just started. Now that our kids are back to school, I'm sure that some of us moms will enjoy some free time while the kids are at school. There will also be time to chat up your child's teacher to discuss your child's progress. At such times we need to be aware that in dealing with our kids teachers, there are a few things the teachers want from parents. Don't be a 'pushy mom' your child's teacher may not like it!

Heard about 'Pushy Parents' before? May be among teachers, this term may not be a new one. This is a new one I got from Yahoo, tales of pushy parents barging their way into school, to berate Sir or Miss over little Lara’s syllabus.
Moms pack indomie for their kids school lunch, to flout the healthy eating rules set by the school.

But while most of us would hope to behave rather better when it comes to dealings with our children’s teachers: are we really giving the profession our full respect?

Top Lagos educator, Mrs Edna Obaze points out that "parents non involvement in their children's education is one of the problem  the school face today. Parents need to discuss the progress of their kids with the teachers but some of them never show up for a whole term".

Top American teaching guru, Ron Clark points out: “Today, new teachers remain in our profession for an average of just four and a half years, and many of them list ‘issues with parents’ as one of their reasons for throwing in the towel.”
Bottom line is that we need to let parents be parents and let teachers be teachers. A pressing issue is the loss of teacher autonomy in the classroom.
Whether it’s outright hostility or a loss of respect, many teachers would say it’s not just the pupils who need lessons in how to behave – and parents too might benefit from a few dos and don'ts.

So, here are the Top ten things teachers want parents to know:

1. Be involved
Yes, teachers do want parents to get actively involved. But that doesn’t mean thinking you know better when it comes to curriculum decisions, or what marks to give your oh-so gifted offspring.

What it does mean is more than just turning up to parents’ evenings. As one teaching website notes: “Parent involvement helps students learn, improves schools and helps teachers work with you to help your children succeed.”

So keep communication lines open, checking in every so often to raise any questions you may have. If possible, volunteer to help occasionally – or ask the teachers if there is anything you can do at home.

2. Check up on your children
No, we don’t mean follow them to school disguised in a bouffant and funny glasses. But do look at their timetables and go through their folders with them regularly – so they know you’re on top of what they should be doing.

And read every letter and report that’s sent home with your child. Which leads us to…

3. Be organised
You can’t be expected to know about the letter you need to sign if it’s crumpled in the bottom of Chioma’s bag, among the empty biscuit pack and broken bits of pencil. Establish a routine where your child clears out their bag nightly so you get any important letters and homework doesn’t disappear into the black hole.

4. Homework’s for kids
There’s a fine line between helping and taking over. It’s important to review your little one’s homework, but if he or she gets an answer wrong don’t just tell them the right answer – help them understand why.

Teachers on parentdish.co.uk note: "Homework is for children not parents - if it's really beyond their capabilities let the teacher know."

5. Let your child make mistakes.
Teachers don't want perfect students, they want students who try hard. Don’t get caught up in thinking every assignment has to be perfect. It’s important for teachers to see where a child is going wrong, so they can go over material again.

6. Don’t leap on the defensive.
Remember, teachers are usually in the job because they want to teach – not because they’re out to get you/your child.

So if you’re told there is a problem with your child’s behaviour, don’t jump to their defence – listen to what the teacher has to say. As one quips: "Don't automatically believe everything your child tells you and, in turn, we won't believe everything they say about you!"

7. Don’t talk negatively about a teacher in front of your child.
US teaching guru Ron Clark points out: “If your child knows you don't respect their teachers they won't either, and that will lead to a whole host of new problems.”

8. Manners are important.
As one teacher on teachers’ website educationworld.com points out: “As much as I treat all students equally, the child who remembers to say ‘thank you’, ‘please’, ‘excuse me’ is thought of more fondly.”

9. If the teacher is doing something right, let them know.
Buck the trend and send an email or call when your child enjoys a class event, or says something nice about their tutor. It can make all the difference. And if you’re really pleased, why not let the head know?

10. If they’re doing something wrong, don’t overreact.

If there’s something you’re not happy about, speak to the teacher first rather than going straight to the head/head of year.

As one teacher wryly says: "If you've got a problem, come and see me first, going straight to the head is just rude. Next time I have a problem with little Johnny and your parenting I'll ring your boss and see how you like it." I am guilty of this particular one, I just reported my son to the head of school today although I didn't mean to disrespect is teacher. We learn everyday, don't we?


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