Girl 3 Year old Raped In Adeniji Adele Lagos

I do not know what our society is turning into. When did we loose it?. How can a man this old rape this baby? I call her baby because she is pretty much one. I just cant understand how this can be. How much of bad spirit that resides in some men. The time is really bad! 

This incident happened yesterday afternoon at Adeniji Adele, Dolphin Estate, Phase 2. A little girl ran into a woman’s shop crying. The woman asked her why she was crying, but the little girl couldn’t really express herself. She just kept pointing at a particular direction, and crying. Then a few minutes later, the shop owner saw a man approaching her shop and calling on the girl to follow him. The woman asked the man who he was and why he was after the girl. The man probably realized the women wasn’t going to release the girl to him, so he tried to run. The woman raised an alarm immediately shouting ole ole, thinking he was a kidnapper, not knowing he had done something much worse.

Youths in the area thinking the man was a thief descended on him. The man kept saying he wasn’t a thief that the little girl was known to him. They turned to the girl and pressured her to tell them what the guy had done to her; the 3 year old told them that the man had taken her to the last floor of a 3 story building and hurt her. They checked the girl’s panties and saw blood all over her private area. The blood had even dropped to her legs but nobody noticed on time.

On hearing this, the youths descended on him once again, this time more brutal. They stripped him naked, and beat him with stick, stones, bottles, etc until someone called the police who then took the man away.

Teaching Values to Your Kids

I know you will be wondering where I have been. my blog has been screaming, blog some more! Well in the last 3 months I have been shuttling between Abuja Nigeria's Capital city and Lagos Nigeria's economic city. Does this have an impact on my family? Yes! it sure does.   But my husband has been great with the boys, in fact he has exceeded my expectation; My family is in good hands and they understand that mom is making some sacrifices as well as building on her career as a communicator. 

In this consumer-driven society of ours that broadcasts values that don’t reflect what we believe, how can dads teach values to their kids? Here are ten ideas to help you as suggested by Mark Brandenburg;

1. Tell them your life stories and teach through your stories 
   Kids love to hear stories about your childhood. Weave in some moral dilemmas and you’ve got great opportunities to teach values to them. It certainly beats lecturing your kids! 
2. Live your own life according to your values—walk the talk.
   Kids learn by imitating, especially at a young age. They are very adept at seeing if what you say and what you do are matching up. Don’t give them confusing signals; follow your own values every moment. 
3. Expose them to your religion or faith
   It seems especially important today to let them know that they’re not alone. Providing your kids with a community of faith will strengthen their values and provide parents some “leverage”
4. Pay attention to who else might be teaching values to your kids
   Get to know your child’s teachers, coaches, relatives, etc. Anyone who spends time with your kids may be influencing them. Know their values and beliefs as well.
5. Ask your kids questions that will stimulate dialogue about values
   Telling them what values they should have won’t always be effective, especially when your kids get older. Asking them “curious” questions will allow discussions that will eventually lead to values. “What did you think about that fight,” may be more effective than, “He shouldn’t have started that fight!”
6. Talk to them about values in a relaxed and easy way
   Nothing will turn your kids off more than preaching values to them after they’ve screwed up! Talk to them when everyone’s relaxed, and do it in a light, conversational manner. They’ll be much more likely to be listening rather than tuning you out.
7. Read them fairy tales when they’re younger
   Fairy tales capture the imagination of kids and can easily lead to a discussion of values. Kids will learn the most concerning values when they’re excited about the topic.
8. Involve your kids in art, activities, or helping others while limiting TV and video games
   Kids learn values when they experience them. Allow them to experience helping others and involve them in activities that will expand their creativity.
9. Have frequent conversations about values in your household
   This lets your kids know that it’s important and it’s not just something you talk about when they do something wrong.
10. Have high expectations for your kids’ value systems
    Kids will tend to rise to the level of expectation you have for them. Their value system will often reflect yours if the expectations are high.

A New Baby Is Born!!! I know you must be wondering why I have not been very active on this Blog, I have been busy trying to give birth to this child of mine, Now your child, I present to you, Working Moms magazine!!! It is a must-read source for new ideas, advice and strategies for moms to balance their personal, professional and family lives. It would also help to educate married couple on how best to cope with the pressure of working and running a home, without one suffering unduly. The magazine will help mothers learn from their smart solutions for balancing work and family.  

WORKING MOMS AFRICA MAGAZINE: A REVIEW

Working Moms Africa, The Access Media, Lagos: 2012, 84pp
At last, here is a gender-specific magazine for a gender-specific class! Most newsstands in Nigerian cities and towns have their own sheaf of all-women magazines for readers to choose from. For instance, there is Genevieve, Today’s Woman, Everywoman, Woman’s World and dozens more. But none of them is devoted entirely to celebrating working mothers as Working Moms Africa hopes to do. Judging by the content of this maiden edition, it is a welcome addition to the more popular publications on and about women.
Genevieve and Today’s Woman belong to a class of their own. Both of them are published by famous Nigerian women, Mrs Irabor and Adesuwa Oyenukwe. Mary Ikoku, publisher of WMA, is no less famous. A public relations consultant who was once media aide to former Minister of Information and Communications, Professor Dora Akunyili, she has since nursed an ambition to publish not just an all-female magazine but one that will take a holistic view of a certain class of women. This is what she has done with WMA. It is commendable.
In case you were ever in doubt as to the aim of this specialized publication, the publisher clears your doubt from the onset. “Are you in the habit of rushing to work and equally rushing home because there is so much to do both at home and at the office?” she pointedly observes in the editor’s page. “Do you sometimes wish that you could be in two or three places all at once?” Most married working mothers in Lagos and elsewhere in Nigeria where traffic is perennially choked will answer a definite yes to those questions.
But beyond that is the content of the magazine itself. Three quarters of the stories and articles are about working mothers: their day-to-day activities, how they balance their professional and private lives, their hopes and dreams. More important, the women cut across all classes. Thus, there is a cover story on Funmi Gbemudu, a renowned architect and first among equal of the known female architects and builders in Nigeria. Contrasting that is a piece on an otherwise unremarkable roadside bean-cake seller. In-between are snappy sketches of middle-class women, all of them working mothers.
How do working mothers really juggle between their careers and spousal duties without as much failing in either? That question is answered by a number of women interviewed by the publisher herself in “Walking the tight rope.” They are quite revealing.
Take, for instance, Nina Archi’s counsel to working mothers. An employee of an oil and engineering company in Lagos, she insists that working moms should “do as much preparation the night before so in the morning you just need to dress up and take off.” For Amaka Victor Nwosisi, who works with a leading telecommunications company, she says that “the fact that my children (four boys) can look up to me and learn from my experiences motivates me to work.”  There are many more of such mother talk to engage readers.
Like most women mags, WMA has sections on women-related topics such as health, fitness, style and fashion,  even nutrition.
Grace Eessen’s sisterly advise to working mothers to consider themselves first is not as selfish as you might think. First love, so it goes, is self love. With that in mind, readers can better appreciate Eessen’s take on motherhood. “Moms being what we are, want to give it all, making sure the  home is functioning properly; kids are ok and daddy too,” she writes in her Mom 2 Mom page. “Meals are planned, cooked at the right time, laundry is done and ironed properly. We eat after everyone has, go to bed after everyone does and wake up first…But if you truly love your kids and am sure you do, do them a favour and put yourself first. It is only when you give attention to you that you can give more to your kids and husband too.”
Another plus for this first edition is the array of columnists, experts, if you like, readers will come across. Dr. Akinyemi Olaleye is a consultant obstretician and gynaecologist. Expectedly, he writes on abnormal uterine bleeding. Funmi Adeniran, a fitness counsellor, focusses on fitness, a growing concern among African women especially while the problem of indecision is decisively tackled by Nelda Chioma Efughi.
Even male spouses get their say as well, as they recount their experiences of coping with working partners. And then, there is the kiddy corner, this time funny things youngsters do. In a way, it brings to mind the one time popular programme, Kids Say, anchored by African American comedian Bill Cosby.
WMA is not just about the lighter things that concern women or children. There is serious stuff, too. Dr. Goomsu Afiong Obasi is sure to have a lot of working mothers thinking in her contribution entitled “The Remake of the Post-modern Woman.” What is the role of women – married or not – in a post-modern, global village?
If you think WMA is all about women, you’ll be wrong. A male contributor tells readers of his experiences as a single father, taking care of his only child at home and doing school run. And talking about kids, several pages are devoted to them. There is a useful article on child depression, a rare topic for discussion in a Nigerian publication.
For a magazine that boasts coverage of issueson African women, coming out four times a year is somewhat insufficient, considering the enormity of challenges/ problems womenfolk in Africa face daily. Also, there are no interviews on women from the rest of the continent. Where is stuff on women in the horn of Africa? What about their counterparts in other parts of the continent – east, west and south Africa? There is a gnawing feeling that Working Moms Africa should really have been Working Moms Nigeria. 

Even so, WMA will have a shelf-assured life on any coffee table in most homes. Besides, this first edition is sure to hold readers attention for long, far longer than existing magazines of similar genre. For one, there are several publications on and about women as there are different shades of mascara. While a few hold and rivet your attention as an elegantly dressed beautiful woman walking down the street, some are as forgettable as a dowdy dowager since past her prime. With this edition, WMA will not lose its readership anytime soon. 

Reviewed By Mustapha Jimoh Michaelz

HOW THE SCHOOL BUS DRIVER KILLED LITTLE SIMI

THE STORY OF THE LITTLE GIRL THAT WAS KILLED BY HER CARELESS SCHOOL BUS DRIVER .......

In the last 2 years my husband and I had to review our children's being driven to and fro their school by the school bus because of the increasing safety concern in the country. Ranging from kidnapping, drivers excessive speeding, to even death of some pupils. We stopped using the school bus service even though this has  impacted badly on my business as I have to do the school run by myself but I am happy that we took that decision. At least I have had peace with myself knowing that, I am the one that pick up my children from school. It makes me more comfortable and reduces the amount of time I sit in my office worrying about whether my children had gotten home safe or not.  The incident that took the life of little Simi is one sad event and I sincerely pray that God will console her family. Read on Please;
On Friday, January 27, 2012, Tola and Atinuke Omotola lost their daughter to an alleged mistake that could have been avoided. The family says dealing with the loss has been very challenging and urges the Lagos State Government to ensure that those responsible for their child’s death are brought to book, MOTUNRAYO ABODERIN writes

The worst news any mother can receive is that her child is dead. Thinking about the fact that the little girl she nurtured from the womb is gone is indeed painful.

For Dr. Atinuke Omotola, a young mother, losing her two years and five months old daughter, Simisolaoluwa, to an alleged mistake that could have been avoided, hurts more.

On January 27, after school, Atinuke’s two children were transported from Goldenbunch School, Yaba, Lagos, by the school bus. When the bus arrived at their home, her house help was outside waiting to receive them. After the first son alighted from the bus, Simisolaoluwa (otherwise called Simi) also did. But the house help did not know that Simi’s uniform was stuck in the door of the school bus.

In a split second, the bus driver drove off, dragging Simi along. Neighbors said the tyres of the bus climbed on Simi’s head,.

Narrating the ordeal to our correspondent who visited their home in Yaba last Monday, Atinuke said, “Life has been quite hard. The incident happened on January 27 but it feels like yesterday. That Friday, we all woke quite early. I got my two kids ready for school, made their breakfast and lunch. I told my daughter that she looked like a princess, and that I would always love her. I never knew it would be the last time I would set my eyes on her alive.

“When we got to their school, Goldenbunch School at Omoyele Street, Yaba, I carried her down from the car, gave her a tight hug and got into my car. For like a minute, I just sat in my car, it’s like I did not want to let her go,” she said.

Omotola said at about 1.23pm while in the office, she got a call from a neighbor telling her that her daughter was dead.

“My phone rang and a woman who identified herself as our neighbour said that my daughter had been involved in an accident and that she was dead. Immediately, I cut the phone. I thought it was someone playing pranks. I called the number and she picked up. I asked if she was serious and she said yes.

“The first few seconds after the call was as if I wanted to faint. I kept telling myself no, not my little girl. I called my husband and told him the news. I did not even wait to hear his reply. I rushed out of the office and drove to the hospital where they said she was taken to by another neighbor. On getting there, they said she had been referred to the Lagos University Teaching Hospital. I then drove down to L.U.T.H,” she said.

Atinuke said when she got to the ward where her daughter was, she was already dead.

She said, “I could not believe my ears. I cried my eyes out. Being a doctor, that desire to examine my late daughter to know the actual cause of her death was so strong. When I checked her body and her arms, I saw scratches. That means she was dragged by the bus.”

Atinuke said that she kept asking, ‘Who was the nanny in the bus? Who was with my child? At this point, I was informed that there was an 18 year-old nanny in the bus.

“When I met the girl and questioned her, she said she was employed on the Monday before the accident happened, and that she was not a nanny but an assistant teacher. I asked her why she did not get down to ensure that my children got down from the bus safely which was to be the job of any adult in a bus with 10 children; but she had no response. I noticed that the clothes she wore was clean, that means after my child was removed from under the bus, she did not even bother to carry her.”

She added that during the ordeal, she did not get any phone call from the proprietor of the school. “I did not hear from the proprietor of the school at all. When my husband and I returned from the hospital, members of staff of the school came to shed crocodile tears in my house.”

Atinuke said she was angry at the fact that the proprietor might have wanted to save money and so opted to get an assistant teacher who would also act as a nanny.

“At least, I pay N50,000 as transportation fee on each of my children per term. That should be enough to employ an experienced nanny to take care of pupils,” she lamented.

The father, Mr. Tola Omotola, said that dealing with his daughter’s death has been challenging. “Sometimes when I’m sitting in the parlour, I imagine her running out of the room screaming dad.

“Last Friday, while driving to Redemption Camp, my son asked me where we were going, I said Redemption Camp, then he asked if we were going to see Jesus, I said yes, then he screamed and said that means we would see Simi. I went cold. Because we had told him earlier that Simi went to be with Jesus.”

Omotola, a banker, said his daughter died as a result of negligence and carelessness, and urged the Lagos State government to address the issue. “The school needs to take responsibility for its action. Simi’s death should be taken as a serious issue.”

Asked if he would press charges against the school bus driver, Omotola said, “The school has already handed the driver over to the police. But I’m displeased with the police. On Saturday, the police kept calling our phones, asking us to write a letter for the release of the driver. They said that the driver was not feeling strong health wise, and that his wife had just put to bed.

“We told them that their behavior was in-human, and that they did not even consider that we had just lost a child and needed a little privacy. We weren’t the ones who put the driver in detention, why should they be disturbing us?”

The Director-General, Lagos State Safety Commission, Mrs. Odebunmi Dominga, said, “I sympathize with the family who lost their toddler to the alleged negligence of the school bus driver that is supposed to take care of the children under the management of the school, I assure them of the position of the Lagos State Government with the Safety Commission, harnessing and synergising with all the safety structures that have already been in government. We assure them that the issue of safety will be moved to the forefront to become a lifestyle in Lagos State.

“From now onwards, every school in the state, including day care or nursery that will be having children in their custody, must think about the safety of the children thoroughly, and make sure that the management system which they use to operate in the area of safety complies with government’s standard. They should assess the risk these children can be exposed to, assess the dangers that are likely to occur, and put certain structures in place to avoid tragedy,” she said.

In response to question on action that would be taken against Goldenbunch School, the DG said, “For the school, the Lagos State Government together with its Legal Department will deliberate on the next action to take, but government will not take the issue lightly with the school, and this issue will not be brushed aside.”

The Proprietor, Goldenbunch School, Mrs. Modupe Ogundinmu, who was at the Lagos State Safety Commission to file an incidence report, said she was really sober about the tragedy.

Meanwhile, the Principal Consultant, School-run Consult, Mrs. Bisi Akin-Alabi, said she had personally made several efforts to ensure that safety measures were put in place in schools. She advised parents to take the safety of their children as a serious concern.

“Schools should have the right insurance. That is, there should be an insurance scheme attached to every child. If the school involved had every child insured, then we would be speaking to the insurance company now.’’

Akin-Alabi enjoined schools to be more mindful of their policy and recruitment policy, adding that an 18-year-old for instance should not be employed as a nanny.

“No one can protect your child more than you can. The school has a role to play, but you as a parent has more serious roles to play. Last year, my son almost lost his left eye when one of his friends threw a dagger at him,” she said

PAMPERS 3 S: Keeping your baby Soft, Smooth and Supple

Pampers Nigeria is keeping moms abreast with information on keeping your baby soft smooth and supple!

MERRY CHRISTMAS

 A beautiful Christmas wish to  every mom, dad, and families out there and an exciting 2012.
Lack of planning makes us ineffective, as the 2011 comes to a close, let us devote time to plan ahead for the 2012. Wishing you a better year ahead.

BLUNDERS TO AVOID ON YOUR JOB IN 2012

As the year 2011 comes to a close, it is imperative that working moms review our work behaviors in this year, Plan for a better 2012 and commit to our plan. There are some habits that we may have done this year that we may need to take a critical look at,, though they may not be contained in your organizations handbook, they are obviously not very good and may cost you your job. 

Every organization has an employee hand book and in this handbook are stipulated rules and guidelines by which all members of staff should conduct themselves. The employee handbook contains information about company policies and procedures. In some countries it may also form part of an employee’s terms and conditions of employment. Informations such as holiday arrangements, company rules and disciplinary and grievance procedures. It can also provide useful source of information to new staff as part of the induction process. A written employee handbook gives clear advice to employees and creates a culture where issues are dealt with fairly and consistently. Sexual harassment, profanity, and absenteeism were probably all covered in your company orientation. But chances are, a few egregious behaviors-like gossiping and bullying-didn't make their way into the employee handbook. Even so, these missteps might be grounds for immediate dismissal. Read on as we reveal seven on-the-job blunders that could get you fired.

1. Chronic lateness: When it comes to getting to work on time, you may think "better late than never," but your employer probably feels differently. According to experts, tardiness costs businesses more than $3 billion each year in lost productivity. And the effect on the bottom line is significant: An employee who's 10 minutes late every day has, by the end of the year, taken the equivalent of an entire week's paid vacation. 

2. Sharing too much information (TMI): Among friends and family, your life may be an open book, but revealing too much information at work could be an instant career-buster. This is especially true when it comes to personal medical issues, family secrets, or relationship problems. And don't even think about sharing the details of your intimate encounters-remember, although you may be friendly with your coworkers, it's always important to maintain a professional demeanor on the job. Some working moms who feel their spouses are not supportive enough always go on and on about how she is the only one doing everything! You think your colleagues really care who does what in your home? Only a few good ones who are almost not alive will care. My opinion is that it is just best to keep your family life private and get on with your job as professionally as possible.

3. Gossiping:You may think of it as idle chatter, but engaging in juicy water-cooler conversations could be risky business. According to a 2005 issue of HR Advisor, workplace gossip can reduce productivity, alienate employees, and break down trust within teams. In some cases, the office rumor mill could even earn you a pink slip. In 2007, four town employees in Hooksett, New Hampshire, were terminated after discussing false rumors of an improper relationship between the town administrator and another employee. Working moms will be too busy thinking about their job as well as the work load waiting for them at the home front to be engaging in idle gossip. They may be more responsible with work than their single counterpart. Moms are advised to remain focus and use their time well so that nothing suffers while we idle away

4. Fowarding Spam:  Some people on my email contact list are guilty of this one. Whether it's a chain letter that promises to bring good luck or a YouTube video of silly pet tricks, it's not appropriate office communication. Nowadays, there's email overload in virtually any workplace, and forwarding SPAM to your colleagues will probably just annoy them. Plus, your boss may be watching: According to the 2001 Electronic Policies and Practices Survey, nearly 62 percent of employers exercise their legal right to monitor employees' email. Therefore let us be careful.

5. Warbdrobe Malfunctions. These days, lots of office dress codes are business casual—but that doesn't mean anything goes. In a recent U.K. study, employers were asked which habit they found most annoying among employees, and more than 25 percent responded that it was unsuitable clothing or appearance. Moreover, according to a survey by California-based staffing service Accountemps, nearly 40 percent of managers said they thought workers appeared too casual when dressing down.

6. Being a Cellphone Addict. Mobile phones are invaluable devices for touching base, making plans, and averting catastrophes. But at work, you should be focused on the job at hand--not chatting with Mom from your cubicle. The problem is, some cell users are so addicted that they duck out of meetings to answer their phones or send text messages. Instead, turn off the ringer from nine to five, and if you must talk on the phone, do it from a private area.

7. Bullying. As it turns out, bullying isn't just found in schoolyards. A growing body of research suggests that intimidation and abuse run rampant in the workplace. According to the Workplace Bullying Institute (WBI), on-the-job bullying can be defined as "repeated, health-harming mistreatment" that may include verbal abuse, offensive conduct, or sabotage. Although historically, workplace harassment guidelines are limited to guarding against sexual and racial discrimination, since 2003, 13 states have introduced some version of the Healthy Workplace Bill to address status-independent harassment.

Yuletide Quintuplets Makes Husband Happy

Wow! Wonders of multiple births. The Lagos Teaching hospital delivers Mrs Shofunlayo, of  her quintuplet recently. WM learnt that, unlike many men who run away at the sight of such births, Wale Shofunlayo is perhaps the happiest man at the moment. This is understandable, considering that his wife was on Friday, safely delivered of quintuplets three girls and 2 boys. Wale is a legal practitioner based in lagos. This multiple delivery has turned LUTH into a Mecca of sorts as it was recording such a medical feat for the first time.

Mrs Shofunlayo, mother of the quintupletAccording to Sun news, since the arrival of the pleasant surprise, Mr. Shofunlayo has been full of praises to God and the hospital. Besides, his equally bemused friends have ceaselessly bombarded him with different questions concerning the miracle multiple birth.

“Wale, can it be true? How did you do it? Some jokingly say they don’t want to touch me so I don’t implicate them,” he told Daily Sun in an interview on Tuesday at LUTH.
Smiling heartily as he spoke, he disclosed that his wife was moved to the hospital two months after conception so that she could be under the close watch of medical experts.

“She spent seven months here at LUTH so they could take care of her,” he said, disclosing that throughout the period, he did not entertain any fear that anything would go wrong. His confidence was reinforced by his belief in God’s word that He would complete and perfect the good work He had started.
“I feel great and I thank Almighty God for His mercy. I also give kudos to the doctors and nurses that handled the CS (caesarean section),” he said.

According to him, about 50 medical personnel, led by one Professor Ajayi, handled the operation.
The Ogun State indigene, who lives in Ikorodu area of Lagos State, disclosed that until the last minute, they were expecting four kids, based on the scan conducted.

“After the four were brought out, Prof. Ajayi suspected that something was still inside. He gently pressed it and pronto another baby was brought out.”
He affirmed his belief that God would equally help him with the means to take care of them and their elder brother, who he said is about two years old.
His wife, Olayemi, who was in a stable condition, said it was a surprise and equally thanked God for the successful operation.

“It was a surprise. I was actually expecting four,” she said.
She added that the operation lasted about 80 minutes and that the babies were healthy with four of them weighing about 1.5 kilogrammes each while one weighed 1.8 kilogrammes.
The LUTH Public Relations Officer, Mrs Hope Nwawolo, who confirmed the medical feat during Daily Sun visit to the hospital, commended the team that performed the operation.

For now, Ward B, where Mrs Olayemi is recuperating, is the most visited building in the expansive hospital with many excited persons, thronging the place to catch a glimpse of the mother and her kids. The tots are, however, still under intensive care and there is a restriction on visitors into the unit.

Source: Sun News

PAMPER DAY FOR WORKING MOMS

Holiday is coming! Works and schools are closing, goodbye school runs and early morning traffic, the girlfriends are coming to town, and so are the relatives and this is the time the help decides to go travel home. So, welcome all the cooking, the cleaning and yet you need to make room for grooming too

All this business of being a woman can cause serious stress and HSF Spa and Wellness Center is committed to bringing to a zero level every of the stress. On the 18th of December 2011, Working Moms will be enjoying their stress free selves at the HSF Spa and Wellness Centre Ikoyi, Lagos.

This event is hosted in Conjunction with TW magazine.  This special event tagged ‘Pamper day for the Total Woman’ will not only be relaxing but will also reward our hard working moms who have toiled all year round juggling work and family.

Invitees will be treated to FREE pamper sessions including spa treatment, massage, facials, rolling and sauna as well as the first of its kind in Nigeria treatment in the floatation tanks with lots of canapes and cocktails in a serene environment. I am already floating!!!

EVENT DETAIL:

Date: Sun 18th Dec 2011

Time: 2pm – 6pm prompt

Venue: 2 Raymond Njoku Street S/W Ikoyi, Lagos

THIS EVENT IS STRICTLY BY INVITATION!!!!!!!!

Missing Tosin. Everyone is praying and waiting for your return, Tosin.

"Someone Created a blog site to spread the news about Dr Tosin Oyelowo going missing, and she hopes the medium can help find her and bring her back home to her loving family and friends. I am posting same here to reach out to more people. Please spread the word about missing Tosin"

Yesterday, I heard one of the worst news ever. I found out that the beautiful lady whose picture is on the left, Tosin Oyelowo, went missing on Friday, December 9th in Charleston, South Carolina where she is working as a resident after graduating from the University of Charleston West Virginia School of Pharmacy last summer. I never even knew her personally, but I remember seeing her at several events here in Raleigh, NC (where she and her parents have lived for some years since they moved to US from Lagos, Nigeria) including her dad's 50th birthday party some years ago. I remember noticing her beautiful skin and calm persona. To hear that she went missing few days ago is very shocking and painful. If I didn't even know her personally but I'm crying as I am typing this, then I can't even imagine what her parents, family and friends are going through right now.

The news was sent to me as a prayer request text from a friend of mine. I, immediately, called him back to find out what happened and he told me. Heartbreaking, to say the least. My friend mentioned that he had done a google search and there was nothing about it on the news and he felt that it will be great idea to use Facebook and social media, in general, to spread the news and help increase the chance of someone finding her. However, he wasn't too sure if to go ahead and do that on his own. I went ahead and told him that I will go ahead and do something about putting the news out there for everyone to spread since the media will not do it (and we all know why).

To know that such a young and beautiful black lady with incredible potential is missing and there is nothing about it on google or on the news is extremely devastating. However, thanks to the internet, I know we can do something about it. Spread the news. I am hoping we can use the social media to circulate this news and help bring her back home. We might not be powerful enough to have this on every TV news channel, but I believe we can use the power of the internet to bring Tosin back home. Pls, post this link and let people see her face. Make sure every friend or family member of yours does the same. If you see her anywhere or have any information, please call 911 and alert the police in your vicinity. If the news media will not do it, we will use the resources that we have to spread the word.Everyone is praying and fasting for her return but I know we have to take action and broadcast the word; I believe God uses people to answer prayers. I believe she will be found by God's grace. Let us use the power of the internet to let the world know about her,  hopefully find her and bring her back home to her loving family and friends!Here is a link to her pharmacy school profile - http://academicdepartments.musc.edu/pharmacy_services/residency/residents/2011_12/oyelowo.htmlAnd here is an article about her winning a scholarship from the Alpha Kappa Alpha Educational Advancement Foundation - http://readme.readmedia.com/Olutosin-Oyelowo-Receives-Scholarship-from-Alpha-Kappa-Alpha/1882198

INTRODUCING BEAUTY OVERDOSE MAGAZINE

B.O.M: The New Fashion and Beauty Magazine for the Young and Contemporary Woman

B.O.M is the brainchild of Award winning and New York certified makeup artist Eni Balogun. It is a publication which consists mainly on issues of beauty, health, hair, lifestyle, fashion, travel and entertainment. It’s a publication covering the most important things in the International scene and mostly the African beauty industry. B.O.M is every woman's luxury beauty guide and happens to be the only Health & Beauty magazine in the Nigerian market today.

B.O.M speaks to the new Nigerian woman -- urban, always cosmopolitan; as downtown as she is uptown; cultured and multi-cultural and always on the edge of fashion, culture and entertainment. The magazine represents a new, original voice on the news stand, a voice that speaks to a generation of women, old and young, from diverse cultures, upbringings and interests. It is an international & domestic home resource for all beauty professionals, beauty brands & companies, restaurant’s, hospitals and also to the general public. Serving establishments working in practically every industry cutting through from motion pictures to printing and publications, fashion, bridals, casuals, landscape beautification, stylists, advertising, entertainment, corporate, beauty parlours, health sectors, spas and more.

With featured articles on health & beauty of the industry’s upcoming beauty professional’s i.e. Hair stylists, makeup artists, health practitioners, cosmetic companies and manufacturers, B.O.M updates its readers on the most innovative beauty equipment's. It’s the most reliable source which delivers invaluable information and news on current product.

Beauty Overdoze offers a diverse range of articles that combine artistic and business skills, personal and financial growth, health, beauty and creative thinking, entertainment and events
and the latest beauty information and products. With great opportunities designed for makeup & beauty professionals, beauty brands and consumers who share the passion for the love of everything glamorous and beautiful. From high fashion makeup, health topics and hair to high fashion clothing & accessories.

CELEBRITY WORKING MOM CHIOMA CHUKWUKA-AKPOTE ON MARRIAGE

I agreed to marry my husband because he was the only person who knew me for who I am. I met him before I became an actress and it was just on a platonic level, nothing very serious. I liked him as a person, but I kept looking elsewhere.

But when the emptiness was there, that was when I realized I was missing out on a lot of things.

We courted for a long time, but not too long.

I love his simplicity,and personality. He's a very humble and gentle person.He's God fearing,very humorous and so many things that I can't begin to list now.

I like everything about him. There is no total package. You have to like everything about a person for you to be able to settle down with the person.
My journey into matrimony, it's been very beautiful and very rewarding and I'm grateful to God for that.

The greatest lesson I learnt about marriage is to be patient, you don't talk all the time. You've got to do more of listening than talking.
Listening to what your partner isn't saying sometimes results to what he or she does not want to hear.

You should be sure of who you are and who your partners is. That is the first thing and be sure that the love is enough to pull you through.

SEARCHING FOR JOB WHILE PREGNANT

Searching for a job in Nigeria is not easy. The unemployment rate is high. Do mothers stand a chance in job hunting? Most times, the fact that you are married simply bumps you off certain jobs. Being pregnant then your pregnancy bump may bump you off the work, if you are not careful. It is recommended that when you’re expecting a baby, you work hard at your job hunting strategy so as not to allow your belly to bump you off the top of the employer’s candidate list. Moms are advised to shine a light on their skills. With tips from New York City brand Expert, Samantha Ettus. Working Moms can still have a job change while pregnant, all you need to do is let your professionalism speak for you. Pregnancy is not a disease. In fact some women are strongest when they are pregnant. Enjoy the tips below. I hope it helps. You can add more tips you feel will work especially in a country like Nigeria;
Do your homework. During an interview, you want your smarts to glow, not your pregnancy. Research the company’s history, and then you’ll be prepared to speak about its management team, product, philosophy and culture.

Be a pro. Even if your interviewer is friendly, save the scoop on your new nursery for after you’re hired. Instead, keep the interview focused on you, your skill set and what you can bring to the position.

Talk about reality. A potential employer might worry that you’ll leave after the baby arrives or be overly distracted by new mommyhood. So assert your strong work ethic and your plans to manage workflow to show you’re more than capable of handling your job postpartum.

Gay/Lesbian Ban: Obama Dares Nigerian Senate, Issues Presidential Memo

PRESIDENT BARACK OBAMA.
…Directs Federal Agencies, Missions Abroad To Protect Gay Rights.

Lagos, December 6, (WorkingMoms) – Barely a week after the Nigerian Senate criminalized same sex marriages and unions, the President of the United States of America Barack Tuesday issued a Presidential Memorandum directing “all federal agencies engaged abroad to ensure that U.S. diplomacy and foreign assistance promote and protect the human rights of LGBT persons.”

Since the proclamation of the anti-gay law by the Nigerian Senate, pro-gay protests in major cities of West have urged Western nations to intervene in Nigeria. Some western nations have even threatened to withdraw aid to countries that ban gay unions.

Nigeria is a very conservative nation with very strong traditional values though you may find a sizeable number of lesbians and gays who would rather remain in the closet than openly declare that they are gay.

Senate President, Senator David Mark who Thursday defended the bill passed with overwhelming majority in the Senate told the visiting German Ambassador to Nigeria, Dorothee Janetzke – Wenzel that the ban on same sex marriage in Nigeria remains ‘irrevocable.’

Senator Mark maintained that the ban would remain in spite of the threat by foreign nations to withdraw assistance to Nigeria.

“It is unfair to tie whatever assistance or aid to Nigeria to the laws we make in the overall interest of our citizens otherwise we are tempted to believe that such assistance comes with ulterior motives.

“If the assistance is aimed at mortgaging our future, values, custom and ways of life, then they should as well keep their assistance,” he stated.

But Obama in a statement from the Office of the White House Press Secretary today said, “The struggle to end discrimination against lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender persons is a global challenge, and one that is central to the United States’ commitment to promoting human rights.”

The statement further said that Tuesday’s Presidential Memorandum directing federal agencies to protect gay rights abroad applies to the Departments of State, the Treasury, Defense, Justice, Agriculture, Commerce, Health and Human Services, Homeland Security, the United States Agency for International Development (USAID), the Millennium Challenge Corporation, the Export-Import Bank, the United States Trade Representative, and such other agencies as the President may designate.

According to the memorandum, the agencies were specifically charged to:
“*Combat the criminalization of LGBT status or conduct abroad.
*Protect vulnerable LGBT refugees and asylum seekers.
*Leverage foreign assistance to protect human rights and advance nondiscrimination.
*Ensure swift and meaningful U.S. responses to human rights abuses of LGBT persons abroad.
*Engage International Organizations in the fight against LGBT discrimination.
 Report on progress.”

The full text of the Presidential Memo reads:

“FACT SHEET: Working to Advance the Human Rights of Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender (LGBT) Persons Globally.

“The struggle to end discrimination against lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender persons is a global challenge, and one that is central to the United States’ commitment to promoting human rights.”

--President Obama, December 6, 2011

Since taking office, President Obama has demonstrated that his vision for a brighter future includes greater equality for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender (LGBT) Americans. The President and this Administration are dedicated to eliminating barriers to equality, fighting discrimination based on sexual orientation and gender identity, and engaging LGBT communities across the country. The Administration’s dedication to LGBT rights does not stop at our borders, as the President made clear at the United Nations in September of this year when he said: “no country should deny people their rights because of who they love, which is why we must stand up for the rights of gays and lesbians everywhere.”

Today, President Obama issued a Presidential memorandum that directs all federal agencies engaged abroad to ensure that U.S. diplomacy and foreign assistance promote and protect the human rights of LGBT persons. Under the Obama Administration, agencies have already begun taking action to promote the fundamental human rights of LGBT persons everywhere.  And now, following an interagency process coordinated by the National Security Staff, this memorandum directs the first-ever U.S. government strategy dedicated to combating human rights abuses against LGBT persons abroad.

Today’s memorandum applies to the Departments of State, the Treasury, Defense, Justice, Agriculture, Commerce, Health and Human Services, Homeland Security, the United States Agency for International Development (USAID), the Millennium Challenge Corporation, the Export-Import Bank, the United States Trade Representative, and such other agencies as the President may designate.

The memorandum directs agencies to:
*Combat the criminalization of LGBT status or conduct abroad.
 *Protect vulnerable LGBT refugees and asylum seekers.
 *Leverage foreign assistance to protect human rights and advance nondiscrimination.
 *Ensure swift and meaningful U.S. responses to human rights abuses of LGBT persons abroad.
 *Engage International Organizations in the fight against LGBT discrimination.
 Report on progress.

Even before today’s memo, U.S. agencies have been working to protect and promote the rights of LBGT persons around the world. Since January 2009, Secretary Clinton has directed the Department of State to champion a comprehensive human rights agenda—one that includes the protection of LGBT people.

Around the world, the State Department is:

*Engaging bilaterally and regionally in conjunction with U.S. embassies, civil society, and multilateral agencies to encourage countries to repeal or reform laws that criminalize LGBT conduct or status.

*Reinforcing the human rights of LGBT people in multilateral fora, such as the UN Human Rights Council. In June 2011, the United States joined South Africa and a cross-regional group of co-sponsors in passing the first-ever UN Human Rights Council resolution on the human rights of LGBT persons.

*Promoting human rights worldwide. U.S. embassies are declaring the United States’ support for the human rights of LGBT people through innovative public diplomacy. Ambassadors and embassies have hosted public discussions and private roundtables, published op-eds and supported Pride events.

*Supporting LGBT human rights defenders and civil society groups, with programmatic and financial assistance, including efforts to document human rights violations; build advocacy skills; provide advocates with legal representation; and, when necessary, relocation support.

*Reporting on the conditions of human rights of LGBT people in each of its annual, country-specific Human Rights Reports.

*Strengthening the Department’s personnel and consular policies. The Secretary extended the range of legally available benefits and allowances to same-sex domestic partners of foreign service staff serving abroad. The United States also incorporated gender identity into federal equal employment opportunity policies in 2010.

*Protecting LGBT refugees, asylum seekers, and migrants through a protection strategy developed with other U.S. Government agencies, the UN High Commissioner for Refugees and NGOs.”

Source: The Will Nigeria